It is often difficult to know how to help someone who struggles with mental health challenges.
While we want to be there for them and help them as much as we can, the fear of saying or doing the wrong thing can sometimes leave us with our hands tied. However, having the answers to their problems is not the only way to show support. Being there also involves showing empathy, understanding, and a willingness to be an active part of their journey.
Here are some ways we can learn to be more compassionate and supportive towards people dealing with mental health issues.
Educate yourself
Mental health conditions are complex, and each person’s experience is unique. Understanding and acknowledging what your loved one is going through is the first step to providing meaningful support. Educating yourself on their condition, symptoms, and treatment options will help you empathise more deeply and avoid common misconceptions that can lead to frustration or misunderstanding.
Be non-judgmental
Create a safe space where your loved one feels comfortable sharing their thoughts and feelings without fear of being judged or dismissed. Avoid interrupting, giving unsolicited advice, or trying to "fix" the situation. Instead, focus on listening actively. Validate their feelings by acknowledging their emotions and experiences, even if you don’t fully understand them.
Slow and steady wins the race!
Mental health recovery is often a long process. It has its ups and downs. Patience is the key to being understanding of your loved ones’ situation. Let them know that you are there for them, no matter how long it takes. Being present doesn’t always mean offering solutions to their problems; sometimes, simply sitting with them in silence can be a powerful gesture of support.
Encourage seeking professional help
While your support is crucial, it is also important to reaffirm that you are not a mental health professional. Encourage your loved one to seek professional help from a therapist, counsellor, or psychiatrist. Offer to help them find the right professional, and accompany them to appointments if they wish, or support them in any way that feels comfortable to them and you. Professional help can provide them with the right tools and strategies they need to manage their mental health effectively.
Boundaries!
Respecting boundaries is one of the most important things to do while supporting someone with mental health challenges. They may not always want to talk about what is happening. Let them set the pace and tone for conversations about their mental health. It’s also important to respect their privacy and confidentiality. Avoid sharing their struggles with others unless they have given you explicit permission to do so.
Support them practically
In addition to emotional support, practical assistance can be incredibly helpful. Mental health challenges can make even everyday tasks feel overwhelming. Sometimes, small acts of kindness can relieve some of the stress your loved one is experiencing and allow them to focus on their well-being.
Healthy habits
Encouraging healthy habits can play a significant role in supporting your loved one’s mental health. Suggest activities that promote well-being, such as taking a walk, eating healthy meals, practising mindfulness, or engaging in hobbies they enjoy. However, be mindful not to push too hard if they’re not ready, respect that, and simply let them know you’re there when they are.
Warning signs!
It’s important to know warning signs that your loved one may be in crisis. These can include drastic changes in behaviour, withdrawal from social activities, expressions of hopelessness, or talk of self-harm or suicide. If you notice any of these signs, take them seriously. Encourage your loved one to seek immediate professional help, and if necessary, contact a mental health emergency service like a Distress Helpline. (Praan’s distress helpline - 8142 800 800)
Take care of yourself
Supporting someone with mental health challenges can be emotionally draining, so it’s crucial to take care of your well-being. Make sure you’re getting enough rest, eating well, and engaging in activities that energize you. Don’t hesitate to seek support for yourself, whether it’s talking to a trusted friend, joining a support group, or seeking therapy.
Hope and positivity – pillars of support
Lastly, maintain hope and a positive mindset. Let your loved one know that you believe in their ability to recover and that they are not alone in their journey. Your optimism can be a source of strength and encouragement for them during difficult times.
If you know someone who is going through a mentally tough time, support them and help them navigate their mental health journey. Your support can make a significant difference in their life, providing them with the strength and comfort they need to move forward.
